So, I'm all geared up and my gym bag is packed with all the essentials. Conditioner, makeup, hair wax, deodorant, ipod, earphones...
The kids are in the car and I get to the gym. I'm determined to run my three miles today and work hard. I get on the treadmill and things are going great. I feel good. I'm increasing my pace. My body seems to think that running is a good thing.
Then it happens. The gym lady comes up and tells me my son won't stop crying. I stop the treadmill and go in to check on him. He's just fine... until I try and leave. The kid is going through some kind of attachment disorder or something. He's been doing the same things with nursery.
Any quick fixes?
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My boys both went through this phase. It was frustrating, especially at the gym. I don't have any advice except hang in there. Eventually they get over it
Wish I could say something brilliant, but I don't know any cure. Good luck.
Apparently that is very healthy and it is better that way and it means that you are a better mother. That is what I learned in my Psyc class. If your child doesn't get attached to you then you are not a good mother. So feel happy with yourself. My kids don't normally cry when I drop them off somewhere and I am SO glad but I guess that just means that I am a bad mom. Oh well, I would rather be able to drop my kids off without the crying and not have that worry on my mind. Good luck to you good mom:)
i don't have any quick fixes, but something that helps is to spend extra cuddly time with him reading books or just playing cars with him for a straight half hour every day. One on one time is huge with kids. even if it's only ten minutes of undivided attention where the kid picks the activity
also talk about it with him. you probably so this already, but just remind him of the schedule of the day and how things are going to go. Then remind him how you always come back.
I don't think that if your kids cry or not when you drop them off it is any sign of a good mom or not, it is simply personaities (don't get me wrong there is definantly something with attachment issues, but I am sure your child does not have issues). one thing that a mom in our ward did was she took her son to nursery, and stayed with him the whole time. the next week she dropped him off and told him she would be back and five minutes later she came back and hung out the rest of the time. The next week she dropped him off, told him he would be right back waited fifteen minutes, and then came and hung out the whole time. and now he is fine. he knows that when she says she will be back, she will be back. It took three weeks, and maybe with some kids it should be in smaller increments. . . or more might be needed after the fifteen minutes. But they just need enough time to see it is ok to play with other kids and that you will be back. That is all. . . good luck, kendell has no problem with me leaving. . . and if she does I know there is something wrong with her so I just let her hang out with me that day and the next time she is fine. but it is personality of the kid. good luck figuring it out.
I also have no good advice, so if you figure something out let me know. Cuz it is no fun to have a 6 year old like that and have to go spend hours at kindergarten to convince him it is okay that I leave again! Not to discourage you, but good luck! :)
I learned a lot of fun songs and games going through pre-school with my youngest. He's 16 now and doesn't suffer from the attachment issue so much anymore.
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